Siblings But Strangers – Part 2 – Sabrina Lakhani

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The healing journey continues even after you’ve

The healing journey continues even after you’ve done a good amount of inner work! 😱

This might feel dreadful to hear or you might feel relieved depending on how you think of it-

This means you don’t have to do everything perfectly, there’s time and space for working through things, and it’s all part of an adventurous journey! 🥳

This is the best way I know how to live my best life everyday. 🌟

Have questions for me? Put them in the comments👇🏼

#selfcare #reparenting #consciousrelationship #consciouspartnership #consciousmarriage #selfaware #selfregulation #intentionalliving #investmentinyourself #consciouscommunity #therapy #breakingthepatterns #selfevolution

If you know me well, you know that there’s nothi

If you know me well, you know that there’s nothing more important to me than building a conscious partnership. 💕

10 years ago, it was impossible for me to have a healthy, stable, secure relationship because I would get so triggered and be unable to maintain any level of presence. Inevitably, I would take things personally, which fit my own limiting story about myself.

Working on our own healing is the best way to make this a real possibility in our lives. It's a lot of work, even after you get the hang of what to do when you're triggered, building your self-care routine, and connecting with others who are walking the same path. But it is so worth it. 💥

#selfcare #partnership #healing #triggered #buildingself #innerchild #consciousparenting #consciousrelationships #consciouspartnership #joyfulliving #traumarecovery #anxietyhealing #innerchildwork #reparenting #secureattachment #insecureattachment #ismaili #patternstopresence #southasianfamilies #healthyboundaries #innerwork #cyclebreakers #breakthecycle #changethepattern #healingwork #southasiantherapists #browngirltrauma

Are you single…? And even if you’re not, you

Are you single…?

And even if you’re not, you have a part to play in the kind of world we create. 💕

The relationships you invest in matter - not just for you, but for your families, and communities.

⭐ A bit from my life -

One of the reasons I decided to get divorced was because I recognized that our marriage wasn’t just creating distress for the two of us, but it was also stressing out our families and communities.

⚡ We were undeniably creating more dysfunction in the world.

Without a fierce commitment to healing and growth, nothing was ever going to change.

And I was right - that's when things changed in my life and now that's a non-negotiable for me.

But that's not where it ends.

💥 It's up to us to establish a solid self-care routine, to shed the relationships and activities that don't serve us, to learn to self-soothe, to surround ourselves with people who are also doing the work.

Everything that came before was leading to my healing journey and the life I have created after looks nothing like the life I had before. 🔆

#selfcare #selfcareroutine #healing #growth #divorce #approvalseeking #childhoodtrauma #cyclebreaker #breakthecycle #insecureattachment #attached #secureattachment #earnedsecure #patternstopresence #seekingvalidation #unhealthypatterns #consciousconversations #consciousparenting #reparentingyourself #selfvalidation #selfcare #anxietyhealer #somatictraumaresponse #overexplaining #anxiouswomen #perfectionist #ismaili #southasian #desi

⚡Do you get triggered when you don't feel that y

⚡Do you get triggered when you don't feel that your parents or your partner accept you?

Depending on them for acceptance is an insecure strategy in adulthood that is going to lead to conflict, pain, & suffering.

🔎 My personal experience:

I've struggled to accept my ADHD & HSP qualities.

The background context: I was shamed for these qualities, so I developed a strong masking routine to minimize how apparent they are 🙈

In my previous relationship, I masked my ADHD & revealed it after a few months. When I did, my ex-partner got really triggered. He insisted I get off the meds & focus on natural methods to cope with it. That was so stifling for me because it was something I had not really accepted about myself. I wanted acceptance from him so I could accept myself. Eventually, I sided with myself & radically accepted myself, regardless of the outcome. The relationship ended because he couldn't accept that about me. 💔

In my current relationship, I was open & honest about my diagnosis from the beginning & my partner was accepting of it.

Life often works this way - it brings things to the surface that we need to accept about ourselves & when we do, we attract others who also accept us for who we are. 🥰

However, when we don't accept ourselves, we attract people who also don't accept us.

Acceptance is an inside job. The more I accept myself through self-care, research ("me-search"), meditation, therapy, etc., the more comfortable I am talking about how these things impact my life at the right time, with the right people. It doesn't mean I talk about it all the time, which can be misunderstood as self-acceptance.

When I do talk about it among people who don't get it/dismiss it, it doesn't dampen my experience of life, because I am secure in myself.

#hsp #adhd #triggered #approvalseeking #childhoodtrauma #cyclebreaker #breakthecycle #insecureattachment #attached #secureattachment #earnedsecure #patternstopresence #seekingvalidation #unhealthypatterns #consciousconversations #consciousparenting #reparentingyourself #selfvalidation #selfcare #anxietyhealer #somatictraumaresponse #overexplaining #anxiouswomen #perfectionist

Last week, I was reflecting on how my relationship

Last week, I was reflecting on how my relationship with my parents has changed so much since the day I got divorced.

And despite becoming so good at predicting patterns, this part of the journey is not something I could have predicted.

Choosing myself and choosing to walk the path of truth resulted in my personal and professional growth. 🌟

I consciously decided to fully love, honor, and respect myself even if no one else did - including my parents.

Since we’re all meant to be free, then by default, every parent must deeply desire to free their children from the shackles of their own limited thinking. But this is not easy for parents to do.

Parents are unable to free their children without a third force of some kind - for me, that was my unexpected divorce. 💔

In the drama of life, my parents played their roles, and I played mine. It was never personal; the conflict unveils the path to freedom, is a way to polish our hearts, and allows us to see more clearly. 🤓

I bow in reverence to the Absolute for its mercy, benevolence, and grace in guiding me home. 🙏🏼❤️

#authenticrelating #consciousrelationships #familylife #selfreflection #posttraumaticgrowth #divorcedwomen #lifeafterdivorce #selflove #patternstopresence #selfevolution #pathoftruth #southasiantherapist #browngirltrauma #childhoodtrauma #healing #ismailicommunity #ismailism

Love bombing is a manipulative technique used by s

Love bombing is a manipulative technique used by some individuals to win over and control their romantic partner. It involves showering the person with excessive affection, attention, gifts, and promises in a short amount of time in order to create a strong emotional bond and a sense of dependency. This type of behavior is often a sign of a toxic relationship and can be used to mask deeper issues or control the other person’s behavior.

Love bombing can be experienced in various forms, including physical affection, constant communication, grand gestures, and declarations of love. It can be difficult for the recipient to see the underlying manipulation because they are often swept up in the sudden attention and affection.

It’s important to be aware of the warning signs of love bombing and to maintain a healthy balance in relationships, where both partners are able to express their feelings and needs without fear of manipulation or control.

People who have insecure attachment styles are more likely to engage in and experience love-bombing.

#insecureattachment #johnnydepp #amberheard #lovebombing #lovebombingisnotlove #loveaddiction #loveanxiety #fearfulavoidant #anxiousattachment #secureattachment #toxicrelationships #toxiclove #childhoodtrauma #fairytalestory #lovelanguage #lovegifts #hollywoodrelationships #amberheardfans
#consciousrelationships #cyclebreakers #selfhealing #healyourtrauma

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