Life as a securely attached adult When children are able to trust their parents will recognize and meet their needs, they develop into securely attached
How I healed my insecurity emotionally in adulthood I still had a “hole” in my heart. I had incessant thoughts about being unworthy of my
How I healed my insecurity cognitively in adulthood I became an adult when I revised my family’s narrative and freed myself from external expectations. So,
How insecurity is passed down, generation after generation My paternal grandparents didn’t need another son as they already had three sons before my father was
How insecurity robs us of a happy childhood For as long as I can remember, I believed that my parents didn’t really love me. I
In March 2019, I was invited by the University of Central Asia to speak at a TEDx event hosted by the students in Naryn, Kyrgyzstan.
Over the next couple of weeks, I read everything written about the Scapegoat and Golden Child pattern. When I realized how the Golden Child qualities are almost the same as Avoidants (which I researched and wrote about here in 2016), I panicked because my ex-husband is an Avoidant.
At age 32, I wrapped up my life in New York in two weeks and moved in with Amin, my 30-year old brother in Seattle. I knew this day would come, but no one in my family had believed me.
My longest standing gripe with my parents was that they had not enabled us to have a strong sibling relationship…