Siblings, but Strangers – Part 3
It’s been 5 months since I published the last update. [...]
Siblings, but Strangers – Part 2
Over the next couple of weeks, I read everything written about the Scapegoat and Golden Child pattern. When I realized how the Golden Child qualities are almost the same as Avoidants (which I researched and wrote about here in 2016), I panicked because my ex-husband is an Avoidant.
Siblings, but Strangers – Part 1
At age 32, I wrapped up my life in New York in two weeks and moved in with Amin, my 30-year old brother in Seattle. I knew this day would come, but no one in my family had believed me. My longest standing gripe with my parents was that they had not enabled us to have a strong sibling relationship...
Luna: From Abandoned to Adored
On January 1, 2018, six days after I moved to Bangalore, I wondered: what if….I rescued a dog? I had seen this on Facebook a few days before. Ankit had been feeding this dog for a couple of weeks, but could not take her in because he was preparing...
DJAC 2018: Celebrate Inner Conflict
As humans, most of our daily decision-making is patterned and predictable. However, if we could zoom in on those instances where we stop and consciously think through our decisions, we might see our minds attempting to answer a single question: Who am I? In order to answer that...
Therapy: A 2-for-1 Deal
I begged and begged to not have to go to therapy. But my Class Dean at Babson College wouldn’t have it. By the third year, she knew me as an ambitious, high-performing student who was determined to graduate a year early. And she saw what I couldn’t see at the time - that I needed...
In Search of Home
As a girl of Indian descent growing up in Chicago, I was taught to regularly seek blessings from elders in the family, particularly my paternal grandmother. She would place her hand on my head, and pray that I would be blessed with good health, success in school, and a good home. One day, I stopped her and said, “But grandma...
Embracing My Insecurities
Now that life has returned to a slower pace, I have started to unpack the learnings from 2017. I am slowly beginning to see where my insecurities are because for the most part, they remain hidden deep within us, until triggered by specific situation and often through a specific someone...
Are You My Alma Mater?
Finding the right MBA program is like finding the family that speaks your language. They may not look or talk like you, but you feel “at home” because they understand and value you. I knew that INSEAD was the only school that speaks my “language” i.e. could decode my resume and understand who I am...
Diversity + Conflict = Maximum Growth
It’s Sunday night and nearly 2 am. I have class in 6 hours, but I have an urge to sit here in silence and write. It feels like a month has gone by. Flipping through my notes from a week ago compels me to check the date again. Yep, it’s only been a week. I don’t know...
